The Cube of Life

Throughout life, one hears/uses different analogies: “There are many fish in the sea”, “I’m going to be toast when I get home”, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done”, “You’re as annoying as nails on a chalkboard”, etc. the list could go for days. As I sit and think about all the analogies I have heard in my life, I think about life in general; life is like a Rubik’s Cube.rubik_cube

 

Everyone knows what a Rubik’s Cube is; some people have just glanced at one in the store, while others have spent time trying to solve one (some successful, others not so much). While looking at the cube, however, no one actually realizes that life is just like the cube. Just like a Rubik’s Cube, life has a lot of twists and turns along the way.

In order to solve the cube, one has to focus on one side to achieve the next. One is unable to move to the next stage of life, or next side of the cube, without completing whatever stage he/she is currently in. The first side of the cube is like the present, one has to place main focus on the present to get through to the future. Once that stage is complete, one moves into the next step of his/her future and leaves the past behind. Like with the cube you can make the wrong move and have to restart; just because you mess up that doesn’t mean you quit. As time goes continues, one eventually reaches the final step of the cube and completes the puzzle. Upon completion, you have the choice to restart or move on.

With life you keep moving forward, growing, and learning. Just like with the cube, have patience and never give up.

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Goodbye Fear, Hello Life

No one has went through life without fearful feelings. One who says he/she has is too afraid to admit it. Maybe you are afraid of roller coasters, flying, trying out for a team of some sort, falling in love, or admitting your true feelings. I want each reader to take a moment to think of some of your fears.

Now that you have thought of your fear ask yourself if you are letting it stop you from taking a chance. As adults how many of us let the “fear of striking out keep us out of the game?” Chances are at least one of your fears has stopped you from taking a chance in life. Is this fear truly worth it in the end?

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If fear is holding you back try these three steps:
Take it easy: Break down your fear into small steps and start taking these steps.
Stick with it: Just because you get a strange feeling at first don’t give up. Never give up!
Make it a habit: Keep pushing through until you find yourself laughing at this fear.

We are only given one life to live; in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take. Let today be the first step to conquering your fear. Get on an airplane, go to an amusement park, try out for that sports team, tell your best friend you love them, whatever the fear and go conquer it.

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To the Girl in the Mirror

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Girl in the mirror,

I want to start this off by saying I’m sorry if what I’m about to say hurts but I know it all needs to be said.

For years now I have been comparing you to someone that you are not.  I remember numerous times asking, “Why can’t you be like that?” or saying, “You’re not trying hard enough.”  I honestly cannot remember the last time I looked at you and was truly happy.  I have noticed other girls and wanted you to be exactly like them, which wasn’t fair to you.  I have said terrible things about you to your face; I have said so many things that I don’t even know how you can stand looking at me.

I have made life so much harder on you than what it should be.  I made you believe that if you just lost a few pounds, dressed like other girls, wore your hair a certain way, hid behind makeup, lived trying to be someone you aren’t you would eventually be happy.  I convinced you that you would never be enough unless you lived your life to please everyone else.  Sometimes I felt hate looking at you and I would also feel hate looking back.  Honestly, I just wanted to punch you to make you disappear for a while.

From day one I should have loved you; I should have been your safe place.  I sincerely apologize for all the times I tore you down.  It has taken me years to realize everything I was doing to you.  I ruined not only your outlook on yourself but also on life.  I pushed it to the point that you dreaded having to see me.  I should have told you to realize how amazing and blessed you truly are.  When you were going through hard times, I should have been there to help and not tear you down even more.  I should have always been there.

So girl in the mirror, I’m going to tell you something I never have.  You are a beautiful young woman with an amazing life ahead of you.  You might not look like all of the other girls but that is what makes you the real you.  If there is someone that doesn’t appreciate the real you, they aren’t worth your time.  Stop trying to lose all the weight, stop changing how you dress or how you wear your hair, wipe off all of that makeup, and be the real you!

I know how hard it is to trust my words after all the hurt I’ve caused, however, I swear to you that my words are true.  You are beautiful and you are enough.

Love Always,
Me

Think Before you Type

“How does it feel to be the most hated person right now?”
“I can’t wait to hear about you getting stomped to the curb.”bully
“You’re worthless!”
“You are nothing but a slut”
“You gave me the clap.”
“You ugly cow, stay away from my boyfriend.”
“The world is better without you.”
“You will never amount to anything.  Just go die!”

These are just a few things some people are told on a daily basis.  Over the past decade, bullying has became more frequent in every day life.  Technology has helped improve life but also destroy it at the same time.  Every day, thousands of people cry themselves to sleep over cyber bullying.

What exactly is cyber bullying?  According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, cyber bullying is “the electronic posting of mean-spirited messages about a person (as a student) often done anonymously.”  What’s even worse than the thought of bullying is the statistics:

  • About 42 percent of kids have been bullied while online with one in four being verbally attacked more than once.
  • About 35 percent of kids have been threatened online.
  • About 58 percent of kids and teens have reported that something mean has been said about them or to them online.
  • Other bullying statistics show that about 77 percent of students have admitted to being the victim of one type of bullying or another.
  • The American Justice Department bullying statistics show that one out of every 4 kids will be bullied sometime throughout their adolescence.
  • 46 percent of males followed by 26 percent of females have admitted to being victims in physical fights as reported in one report of bullying statistics by the Bureau of Justice School

Everyone has either been a victim of cyber bullying or knows someone who has, I myself have been a victim.  When you go out of your way to bully someone in such a form you are not only hurting them mentally but ruining his/her reputation; if you post on a site such as Topix that a teacher is doing drugs, that teacher could lose their job and never get hired again.  How would you feel if someone ruined your whole life because they sent a pointless comment for the whole world to see?

 

Before bullying someone you need to think.  Until you are the one thinking about how the world would be better without you, taking a blade across your body to relieve your emotional pain, the one crying yourself to sleep every night, the one thinking of ways to die and so forth you don’t know the pain.  “The boy you punched in the hall today, committed suicide a few minutes ago. That girl you called a slut in class today, she’s a virgin. The boy you called lame, he has to work every night to support his family. That girl you called fat, she’s starving herself. The old man you made fun of because of the ugly scars, he fought for our country. The boy you made fun of for crying, his mother is dying. You think you know them. Guess what? You don’t!”
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Put yourself in their shoes. Think before you type!

 

 

Sources
http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-statistics.html